We’re All Not the Same, But We’re Still Family: An Adoption and Birth Family Story


This story was written for adoptive families to explore the benefits of adoption openness. The main character, Deshaun, loves his family but always wondered about his biological family. Does he look like them? Did they love him? With the support of his adoptive parents, Deshaun gets to meet his biological family. They develop an ongoing relationship, so Deshaun feels more stable in his adoptive family, but also develops a comfortable relationship with his birth family. Deshaun and his family are reminded (as we all are) that family can include biological, adopted, foster, and kin members.

After reading this book, a child and their family will be able to:

  • Discuss feelings about adoption
  • Imagine what openness might mean for them
  • Acknowledge similarities and differences among family members
  • Discuss if an expanded sense of family is possible for their circumstances

What Readers Thought

“This was the perfect book for our pre-adoptive foster son. It was/is his story!”

Author: Theresa Fraser CYC-P, CPT-S, RPT, MA, RCT
Additional Author: Eric E.W. Fraser
ISBN: 978-1-61599-478-6
Count: 1
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